“I’m not like other guys”—oh, but you are.

This poem is lifted from my instagram post here. Please do not repost without my written permission.


This poem (or whatever you’d like to call it) is pretty personal to me. “I’m not like other guys” trope is quite prevalent, both in real life and books. I wanted to share my thoughts on that from experience to show how harmful the “I’m not like guys” people are. These people are often pitied or glorified in books and real life, and I think it’s unfair how they end up acting like victims when they’re the ones inflicting the mental and emotional abuse and manipulation. They’re experts at gaslighting as well, and it’s frustrating to be so helpless in that position. 

I'm not like other guys.
You heard me, but I'll say it again
I'm not like other guys.
My sweet-laced words and vulnerability will draw you in.
I'm not like other guys.
I'll write you in my heart and sing you a love song.
I'm not like other guys.
Did I tell you? Oh, did I tell you that
I'm not like other guys?
Because
I'm not like other guys.
I'll earn your trust, and I'll respect your wishes.
I'm not like other guys.
But wait, I'll ask what I want again even after your 'no.'
I'm not like other guys
because I understand your boundaries, but I'll keep pushing them.
I'm not like other guys.
I'll bind you to my insecurities and use them to control you.
I'm not like other guys
because your 'no' means that I have to earn your trust, then ask again.
I'm not like other guys
because I believe in fate and destiny, even if you don't.
I'm not like other guys.
Do you love me? Do you believe when I keep telling you
I'm not like other guys.
Please love me.
I'm not like other guys.
I hide my puppet strings in the melody of your ruination.
I'm not like other guys.
I'll watch people around you disappear.
I'm not like other guys
because I'm the only one there for you.
I'm not like other guys
because your reality twists in mine.
I'm not like other guys
So listen to my words, to my song, to my love.
I'm not like other guys.
For the sweet poison of my lips will erode your will.
I'm not like other guys.
For as you fall apart, I'll be the only one in your heart.
I'm not like other guys.
sorry you didn't see the rose you took had thorns
I'm not like other guys.
And it's your fault that you didn't see me.
I'm not like other guys.
Stop breaking the shackles free.
I'm not like other guys
oh, under the mask finally, you see
I'm not like other guys
because I'm the most toxic of them all.

Please take care of yourselves. I hope that this is somewhat helpful to you in recognizing red flags or reminding yourself it’s okay to ask for help and get away from toxic people. It’s incredibly hard to cut them off, I know but I believe in you. You can do this.

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